Archive for September, 2010

I Can Crawl!

September 29, 2010

No, I don’t mean me but baby Calvin of course. At 8 month corrected age, baby Calvin has started crawling in earnest! When he sees something that interests him which in these days means his wet wipe box, the bottle of Ribena or the fridge, he will commando crawl over to check it out. It’s not quite the full- fledge- tummy- off- the- floor crawl but he’s definitely found a new way of getting around. Given, he still can’t go very far. In fact, when he’s tired, he still goes backwards; if the things are too far away, he’ll even give up or basically get distracted. Still, I feel so proud of my little tot for reaching a new and important milestone. Soon, I think I will be chasing him all over the place, preventing him from doing all sorts of crazy stunts like pulling on the electric cords etc. I have to give some serious thought on how to baby proof a safe crawling zone where I can leave him in for short periods.

He’s also figured out how to press the knob on the little carousel (see picture) to make it spin. And also how to make the Mozart Magic Cube play music. Or at least I assume his smacking of both things are directed and not just random whacks of fancy.

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Yoghurt Power!

September 25, 2010

Baby Calvin didn’t seem to be putting on much weight according to our scales. A measly 250g in 2 months. We wanted to try and reschedule our appointment at KK but the earliest available date was at end Dec. Wanting to at least make sure he’s ok, we decided to bring him to another PD at East Coast road. His jabs were previously done at the Kidslink clinic at Bedok but we found the PD’s attitude to be quite blase and not thorough at all with her examination. The last time we told her about him being on milk strike, she just offhandedly told us to give him solids. At our insistence, she did a cursory check to make sure he didn’t have an ear infection which might have made him reject milk. I would think this should be a standard check because babies are very prone to ear infection.

Well, I read that this other PD is pretty old and experienced so off we went. Not sure if his scale is not calibrated properly or our digital weighing machine is not sensitive enough, but it turned out that he’s now 8kg?? So it turns out that he is fine. Developmentally, he’s somewhat on track except that he’s not really crawling yet. He can creep forward a little when he want to reach out for his toys but he’s a bit of a lazy bugger when it comes to creeping more than a little.

Weaning

The PD also said I’d need to transition him to solids in order for him to get enough calories. On the other hand, I’ve read conflicting advice from the web saying that babies should be getting most of his nutrition from milk up to 1 year old and not to let solids replace milk. Or maybe it’s because he’s not being breastfed so he can’t constantly nibble and get his fill. Afterall, with a 3 hourly feed, there’s a limit to how much his tummy can hold. Plus his tummy capacity seems to be really small. I really marvel at those babies who can drink 200++ ml in one sitting.

Anyway, I came away with renewed zest to let him try more new foods. On a whim, I bought a small tub of Paul’s Natural Yoghurt. The baby Yoplait that a lot of other mummies buy is just too elusive, plus I think it’s expensive? Not sure about the price since I have never found it before. The good thing about buying plain yoghurt is that I can flavour it with any of the fruit/ veg purees.

I was a little skeptical about how receptive baby Calvin would be though since plain yoghurt is naturally sour. I remember eating the low fat ones from Marigold before and they really really taste bad. I was very pleasantly surprised to find that he loved the yoghurt. ❤ ❤ I tried a little of the leftovers and it’s actually much better than I expected. I didn’t realize that the difference can be so stark though I should have suspected that since I dislike the taste of the Marigold fresh milk as well, that the yoghurt wouldn’t suit my palate. So at least I found a good source of protein for him. He didn’t like the texture of tofu that much and I haven’t tried meats yet.

Next on my list are different grains – quinoa, oat, barley – since he seems to be sick of brown rice. I have to admit I’ve never tried quinoa myself. This whole cooking for baby business is definitely making me more domestic. Or at least it’s motivating me to try cooking different things. The main beneficiary is probably Johnny. Or maybe not. Baby food is way too healthy for his liking 🙂

Having Support

September 22, 2010

My mum just visited over the weekend and I miss her already. I can imagine that if I stayed around my family, life with Calvin would actually get a whole lot easier. If nothing else, it will ease the loneliness of taking care of the baby the whole day. I can imagine passing Calvin to her for a couple of hours so I can take a breather. Heck, I can even imagine letting her put him to sleep once or twice so we can go out for a date. Ah, such wishful thinking, might as well have wished for him to just sleep through the night while I’m at it 🙂

But given that we don’t want maids, I think we’re happy with just one baby boy. I used to think that maybe he’ll get lonely without siblings but there’s no guarantee that siblings will love each other anyway. Plus I need my sanity back… I can just imagine that Calvin will grow up to be a very spirited little toddler and child, so I don’t think I’ll do him any justice by splitting my attention with yet another baby. Who knows, maybe I’ll change my mind in another few years. I did after all think for the longest time that I won’t get married and that I’d never have children =)

Heavyweight Light Sleeper

September 18, 2010

Baby Calvin is a really light sleeper. Sometimes even the click from my mouse wakes him up. He’s also hyper sensitive to the sound of splashing water, which is a great pain since I have to wash up the pump parts very often. So during the day, we end up tiptoeing all over him, carefully closing doors and doing my washing as quietly as I can; Johnny and I will whisper to each other. The need for silence can be quite oppressive. It’s hard to relax when you have to be so self conscious of any little noise you make. On the bright side, because I was trying not to make unnecessary noise. it did stop me from my ravenous bouts of snacking especially in the afternoon. The boredom of staying at home makes me a horrible snack monster.

A High Need Baby

September 15, 2010

After 10 months of baby Calvin, I’m beginning to see that he is actually not quite like other babies. He is what Dr Sears, the author of many baby books, calls a high need baby. While all babies are needy in one way or another, some bring it to a higher level. Based on his own experience and those of the parents he talked to, he identified 12 features of high need babies.

Some of these are just so totally baby Calvin.

Hyperactive

Ever since he reach full term at 2 months, he has been one active baby. His arms and legs just can’t stop kicking. He hated being swaddled, even when he was a wee one in the hospital, he could still get his arms out of the swaddle despite the fact that he’s asleep most of the time. He doesn’t like sitting still and cuddling. I was always puzzled when I read about other mums suggesting cuddling as a quiet time activity coz this guy just wriggles like he couldn’t wait to get out. I think that was actually one of the things that made me worried that he shuns physical contact and though it might be a sign of autism.

Draining and Dissatisfied

Definitely oh-so-energy sapping. Especially in the early days, sometimes I just feel so totally pooped out from taking care of him. I think the worse part is when I’ve done all I could and he’s still one difficult and grumpy baby. It makes me feel like such an ineffectual mother. Knowing that it’s just a part of his personality was somewhat reassuring though it’s not stopping me from pulling all the stops to keep him happy =)

Awakens Frequently

Yup, still does that. At least 5-6 times a night and looks like it will continue for a while.

Unpredictable

I remember reading one of the baby books about recording his sleep and activity time every day for a few weeks to find a schedule and there was just absolutely no pattern at all! He just eats and sleeps and plays whenever his mood strikes him. It was only recently that I started to fix his nap times and that made the days slightly more predictable.

Super sensitive

In the early days, he was very sensitive to sound. He will wake up to the slightest noise and it didn’t help that our dog loves to bark throughout the day. I had no choice but to be in the same room as him while he sleeps so I can close the door to shut off noise and to soothe him when I see him stir. It was quite painful for me during that time because I have to literally tip toe around him. He even wakes up from my mouse clicks. I’m glad that he eventually became a little less hypersensitive now. At the very least, he’s getting accustomed to the notty dog’s yapping.

The two below aren’t in Dr Sear’s list but was what another blog mentioned was common among high need babies.

Difficulty Entertaining Themselves

He gets bored easily if we’re not there to play with him. He can play alone for maybe a grand total of 5 mins (10 if we are lucky) before he tries to get our attention. He needs us to be around to interact with him together with his toys, but most of all he just likes to chat with us, crawl/ walk with our assistance and get carried around.

Loves to be around noise, people, activity

This one is a bit counter-intuitive. We were just remarking recently about how he always falls asleep so well in his stroller when we bring him out, amidst all the din and human activity. In fact, even better than when we are at home. Maybe we should bring him out more often but with the rampant Hand Foot Mouth Disease going around, that’s probably not such a great idea.

15 Sep: Let's Go Out!

Well, knowing a label to his behaviour doesn’t really exactly solve any of the problems but it puts it all in a totally different light for me. For one, I don’t feel like I’m a great failure. Once I get past that mental barrier, I find that it’s much easier for me to give him more of my time and energy without feeling resentful and sad. It’s funny what a change of perspective can do for you.

Babbling Sweet Nothings

September 10, 2010

Oops, have been procrastinating about posting on the blog recently. Baby Calvin has become a real chatterbox. He’s been semi babbling to us very often, making lots of h-, g-, b- sounds. Last week, he even managed to string together ‘bababa’. It’s kinda cute coz even his fussy sounds have changed to a more defined sound rather than a nondescript whine. The problem is when he wants to keep talking instead of sleeping…

I wonder when he’ll finally learn to say ‘mama’ =)