Playing (and Fighting) with Playmates

Since summer holidays started, I’ve had many abandoned blog posts that didn’t have a chance to get developed. I’ve put off this one long enough.

My sister and family were here to visit for a week in May. We brought them to the strawberry farm, Luray caverns and Washington DC. My little nephew, J, is 3 years old though he looks more like a big 4 year old in size. Calvin loves to show him his toys but J is not used to sharing toys with other kids. For example, J likes to play with Calvin’s trailer truck but when Calvin wanted to turn it around to show him the back, he didn’t want to let go. Their communication skills are lacking as well especially in the listening comprehension department so that creates a lot of misunderstanding and opportunities for arguments. It’s funny for us to see Calvin arguing with anyone though because he would normally avoid conflict and just run off to play by himself in school. I guess when the someone is your house guest and it’s your toys he’s playing with, even Calvin’s territorial instincts will kick in.

Indeed they would fight over anything and everything. Like when Calvin was telling Lil J that he hasn’t eaten dinner yet, Lil J replied “This is not a restaurant you know. This is a house.” Calvin said he knows it’s not a restaurant or something but Jordan though he didn’t believe him? Jordan:”It’s the truth. I’m angry with you you know.” Somewhere along the way, Calvin went to apologize to him since he got mad but Jordan didn’t want to forgive him so Calvin got mad too.

Then there was the time when they were both playing with a big toy ramp and Lil J didn’t let Calvin use it. Calvin came out of the room with his cars and started to play loudly under the table, declaring that “This is my base. I am having sooo much fun here. *shyooom*” J came out and said “Calvin korkor (means brother in Cantonese),what are you doing?” and something like ” Why Calvin don’t play with me”. Finally after more of Calvin’s happy monologue, Jordan said “Calvin, I’ll move my trucks then after that you can use the ramp”. Triumphantly, Calvin emerged from his ‘base’ and they went back to his room to play.

And of course not forgetting the episode with the stroller. So we went to Washington for 2 days, 1 night. With 2 kids in tow, we only arrived about 1/2 hour before the air and space museum closes. After that, we walked to the Washington Monument and then to the white house and then all the way back to Chinatown which was a 2.5 mile walk. J was in his stroller most of the time so my sister asked him to let Calvin have a turn, which he did. Except for a little 3 year old, it’s hard watching someone else use your things so he quickly wanted it back and promptly got a scolding. The next day, we visited the Natural History Museum in the morning. Lil J was in his stroller as usual, then near the end, my sister suggested that he share it with Calvin, which he reluctantly did. We went downstairs and sat at a bench to wait for Johnny to pick us up with the car since it was raining. There was a dinosaur sculpture behind us and Lil J asked Calvin if he wants to go see it. Calvin bobbed up on the stroller seat and said “Ah, I can see it from here” and quickly settled into the seat to make sure no one can take over it. =_= Kids!

Well, I thought it was good to have someone to argue with too because they do learn social skills that way. On the other hand, I thought to myself, “Good thing we didn’t decide to have #2” Imagine the craziness that would ensue!


At the Lego Store – Calvin doesn’t forgets to make a creation wherever there are bricks


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