Archive for November, 2015

Making Mistakes is Hard on Anyone, Admitting it is Harder

November 14, 2015

It’s always so hard when you make a mistake. You feel crappy, you wish it didn’t happen and then in the best case, you think about why it went wrong, learn from it and pick youself back up. That is if it is a private mistake that affects only yourself and no one even has to know. Having to admit that you messed something up to someone else is worse. You wait for their judgement on you, their anger, disappointment.

Having a child who is timid to try new things, I learned to be forgiving of mistakes (or at least try to). We frame mistakes as opportunities to learn and become better. He says he feels stupid when he makes mistakes and I would tell him, the only stupid person is someone who doesn’t learn from their mistakes. Then we think about how we will prevent the same mistake from happening again. Inevitably, it will happen because old habits die hard or we forget but after repetition, we will hopefully emerge the better for it.

We’ve also read about the mistakes and failures that famous scientists make. Did you know that Edison invented a voice activated sewing machine? It needed someone to bellow long and loud while sewing for it to work. Among the many brilliant inventions that scientists have are many more that simply did not work. It’s not easy to be resillient in face of failure but I think it is the one gift I would like to bestow on my child.

Teacher Conference

November 7, 2015

We had his first kindergarten conference this week. I have to say that even though the school scores poorly on the greatschool ranking – in fact, 2 of 10, we really like the school a whole lot. The facilities are good, the teachers are enthusiastic and work really hard. They really put in effort to help the kindergartners get integrated with a 4 day camp in summer. His teacher Miss M and her assistants went and visited every household right before school started to talk to the parents. Apparently his classes are roughly grouped by how well the kids work together so after that debacle with S who erased all of Calvin’s work, Calvin was moved to another class where he did not have to see S again.

Reading: Calvin has already exceeded goals since he is starting to read independently.

Math: Still needs some work counting past the decades hurdle i.e. he needs help telling what comes after 19, 29, 39 etc

They haven’t started addition yet but his addition and subtraction within 10 is pretty solid. He is resistant to continue addition beyond for now.

Writing: Writing is the part where he needs more practice. He wrote a whole page of robot letters for his teacher when she tried to assess him >_< There are still many letters where he uses the incorrect strokes and he will often revert to a pronate grasp instead of the proper tripod grip. Many letters still suffer from inversion but we’re slowly converting some of them.

I was so worried about his handwriting, I gave him an eye test yesterday on the computer. Looks like his vision is fine for now? His drawings are getting more realistic and his handwriting more legible in our joke of the day copy work.