Archive for May, 2019

Summer “camp”

May 31, 2019

We have not signed up for any camps this year as always. I was curious and looked up the cost of the traditional outdoor sleepover camps that some parents at his school said were “not as expensive”. Let’s just say – mind blown! USD 700 for a week of camp. (Wait was that 7 days or 5 days….)

I had my own crazy idea of doing themed projects we are interested in and maybe even inviting a friend over to work on something together. We could definitely do robotics and programming with minimal extra materials needed.

On the other hand, we don’t really have to anything except chill, read, ride bikes but it would be nice to work on some projects so boredom doesn’t set in too soon.

Shiny Car

May 26, 2019

Over the weekend, we actually washed our car after long last. It happened like maybe three times in the past year. And for the very first time, in our history of owning five cars, we waxed our car! It’s all shiny and I can’t help but ooo and aaah over it.


May 24, 2019

Chinese is definitely a second language for little C, since we barely speak it at home and he obviously does not need any at school. We’ve managed to persevere with reading a Chinese book after school and our own at home Chinese lessons. While he definitely know less than the kids back in Singapore and Malaysia, I’m proud that he is able to understand enough to watch Doraemon cartoons and can read short passages in our textbook. And most importantly, that he still enjoys learning more.


May 20, 2019

Our little guy is on the timid side so I’m really hoping he would have a chance to take more risks and learn to be okay with failure. Both me and J are pretty risk adverse so it’s hard for me to even encourage this but I think my fear of him falling down shouldn’t hold him back from discovering what his body can really do. In reality, little kids recover quickly from most injuries so apart from the really outrageous, it is really fine to experiment a little.

Inspired by yet another book I’m reading about how boys take more risks when they are in a group, it raises the point that it’s better that they do risky activity supervised rather than a innocuous sounding activity unsupervised, with their friends.

At this point, I’m more worried that he would exclude himself from games because he is afraid of taking the risks that other boys tend to enjoy. I mean I like that he stays safe but learning to take calculated risks is a good thing.

So one of the things we did over the weekend was for him to learn how to jump down from a high place. I was making bread so didn’t go but it looks like father and son had a good time. J came back with woodchips on his sweater from demonstrating a jump and roll? Little C seemed more confident in himself. Now I’ll have to think of more challenges to push him to take up 😆

P.s a few days later, C reported that he’s glad that he can now jump off when playing tag instead if trying desperately to find another way down the play structure.

I thought over it and I think our next challenge is to climb trees. He is definitely interested. Now to find an appropriate tree to do this.

P.p.s Found one at a park nearby and he managed to climb up a bit. Still seems to make him nervous but he’s getting better at using his arms to pull himself up.


May 16, 2019

We’ve been composting the mice bedding in our back yard. It has been breaking down fairly well thanks to some red earthworms that are working their way through the pile. I’ve come a long way from my fear of anything wormy since I actually think they look cute. I still wouldn’t touch then though.

So since we have this abundance of fertile soul, we’re trying to plant sunflowers again. I’ve been negligent to my plants and garden before so I wouldn’t trust myself with anything more than a simple plant. Plus, when we go on holidays in summer, the plants tend to suffer and die out…. One reason why I dread having a house with a yard because I’d probably have to pick up gardening!

KF80 and KF9

May 13, 2019

Got another drawing by my little guy for Mother’s Day. Big guy cooked dinner for us – rack of lamb, roasted corn, garlic butter mushrooms and scalloped potatoes, eaten with rice 😆 That Asian need to have rice with every meal. It doesn’t seem to have been passed down to little guy though. He eats rice like he does vegetables – dutifully and under duress.

Working out

May 10, 2019

I’m all sore from doing a high intensity full body workout the other day. My interest and persistence waxes and wanes but overall, I think I’m getting stronger. I have a long way to go to achieve my ideal of a healthy muscular body that is less prone to injury as I grow old. I’m hoping that with deliberate training, I’ll stave off the eventual aches and pains of aging as long as I can. It’s strange to think of myself in my 40s but the truth is that it will come whether I want it or not.


May 10, 2019

We’ve been working a lot of communication skills. It seems like little guy doesn’t pick them up just from being around other people. Maybe part of it is because of his avoidant personality, he tries to avoid confrontation at all costs and thus get little practice in more back and fro discussions/ arguments.

He seems to know what should happen in theory but in practice, stumble because he is in the moment and that part of the brain just didn’t light up.

So I walk him through what other people might interprete what he does differently from what he means.

I do sometimes jump to conclusions about what people mean and get angry, which makes it harder for me to keep my cool and ask appropriate follow up questions that would clarify things. So I’m not perfect either. Things are always easier in theory than in real life


May 8, 2019

We’ve been working on his focus during karate lessons. Last week, he was apparently making faces at himself while sensei was teaching some moves, all while standing at the front row right next to sensei. While I believe he is not trying to be disrespectful, he also wasn’t at his best that time. Partly I was to blame since we had a tiring homework session right before that and I lost track of time. When he starts another lesson already mentally fatigued, that makes it harder to focus and when his brain wanders, it gets into all kinds of trouble.

I read a book last month about how kids can actually make rational decisions if you present all the options and pros and cons for each. I’ve been trying to present the scenarios for him so he can practice making good decisions. We talked about what the problem is and discuss possible ways to solve it. He said he would try to rest more before lessons and I also reminded him of what to think about when sensei is talking about “What is his hand doing? Which direction is his body facing? Feet, head etc” my rationale is that by giving him a checklist of things to think about, it leaves his brain less time for wandering about aimlessly. He seemed to have done well the last lesson so we’ll keep trying this out and hopefully his focus will improve and he’d have learn a new technique to fall back on.

Fitness and Self Acceptance

May 7, 2019

Ever since Christmas break, I’ve been snacking way too much at all the wrong times. Like sometimes right after a meal and basically eating when I’m not hungry but just simply tired or needing something to chew on or craving salty, crunchy things, most of which are not good for the body. So that together with just plain getting old and slowing metabolism, I’ve been looking less pleasing to my eye than before….

It’s sad that for women, you are so used to being judged by your appearance that you start to judge yourself. No one would look at a guy who out on a few pounds and say he looks fat/ ugly or comment about his sense of fashion. And Asian standards of slimness is even more unhealthy and demoralizing.

I was listening to a podcast about healthy body acceptance and I am starting to feel a little better about my body. (I’m easily inspired it seems but probably just as easily forget and fall back on old ways of thinking) We recently had our lipid profile and heart pressure checked and they turned out really well so I know I’m healthy.

I want to focus on finding fun physical activities that we can do together or that I don’t mind doing alone. I don’t think I’ll ever enjoy going to the gym or jogging!