Archive for June, 2019

Handy Mum

June 28, 2019

I fixed his Nerf gun that stopped working after it was dropped. Got rid of the squeak in his door. Clear out the gunk in a blocked bathtub drain. Also learned to change the bike tires and disassembled the sink stopper to clear a clog.

I definitely like working with my hands. Too bad I do not have a daughter so I can show her that girls need not be the damsel in distress waiting to be rescued. Well, at least my little guy would have a different opinion of girls perhaps?

I suddenly remembered his friend coming over and saw me and J playing Terraria and decided I looked less powerful even though we were basically doing the same thing. I just had that feeling I was being stereotyped. Hopefully my son will not be have that same bias about women/ girls.

Last day of the school year

June 27, 2019

It feels like this year passed quickly. In two more years, he’ll begin secondary school, which kinda terrifies me.

This summer, we are going to explore more of his interests. Hoping to go deeper into robotics and electrical circuits. He wants to climb trees and practice shooting a bow. I’m hoping to do a bit more cooking with him.

We have been painting together this past week. I think we’ll need to practice either holding off on beginning till we hear all the instructions or just go free exploration first and then talk about the techniques. I have a feeling the second would be more appealing but in reality, school would be more like the first.

Skinned Knee

June 24, 2019

I had my first skinned knee from biking and a first in many many years. We’ve been biking around the empty parking lot nearby and I was trying to make sharper turns, after being inspired by a video I saw on biking skills. Obviously my balance needs to improve first before I should attempt that. It was still fun to ride a bike though the skinned knee is a big annoyance for a week.

Validating My Choices

June 18, 2019

I recently thought about how my staying at home has positively affected my little C. He’s a wiggly guy, who’s very creative but doesn’t do well with verbal instructions. He wouldn’t do well in a structured environment for most of the day, from school, to after care, and then to Summer camp and enrichment classes. I think he might still be happy, but he’ll also be stressed from not having enough down time.

He wouldn’t have started to enjoy math and may not begin to think of himself as competent in it.

I wouldn’t be able to curate all the wonderful books I’ve introduced him to. I cringe to think he’d be stuck reading Dork Diaries and Captain Underpants.

To make sure he learns some Chinese, we’d have to sacrifice Saturdays for Chinese lessons.

He may not be able to have as many playdates with his best friend and cultivate that deep friendship. And I, too, wouldn’t be able to cultivate such a deep friendship with him, which would be a shame and which I’m hoping would weather is through the potentially tumultuous teenage years.

In the end, this was exactly what I knew I wanted when I was young. I knew that if I had a child, I would like to have time to teach him/ her and pass on my values. Now, more than ever, I truly believe I’ve made the right choice for us. It may be different for other – some kids thrive with structured activities and meeting multitudes of people. I’m glad that I was able to make this choice and keep my little free spirited goblin unfettered for a little longer.

June 13, 2019

So last Saturday, we had another classic misunderstanding between me and Little C. He thought I was repudiating his methods for practicing karate when I was talking about how he shouldn’t try to complicate deliberate practice in basics by doing it in kata firm where many other factors will make it harder

Notes on Practice

June 13, 2019

Use gestures to save time

Have names for basic drills

Use description and modelling to make things clear.

Serious Boy

June 13, 2019

I’m heartened to see him seriously working on his karate in class today. I guess he did take my feedback to heart. He’s definitely a good boy but very easily distracted. He has a lot of symptoms of the inattentive type of ADHD, like daydreaming, unable to focus even when he’s trying, fidgety, careless….